y By Forrest Lien, IACD Director
If you’re a foster parent to a child with attachment disorder, you probably feel worn-out, tired, and angry. You’re not alone.
I’ve worked with hundreds of foster parents throughout my career. Most just want to give these kids who’ve been hurt a chance to feel safe and loved. They try to talk to the kids. They use parent strategies they’ve learned from others. Methods that work in the past don’t work for these kids. Nothing works.
Foster Agencies Don’t Give Effective RAD Training
Foster agencies don’t know enough about attachment disorder to give effective training. In fact, their “training” can make matters worse. Kids with attachment disorder (aka RAD or reactive attachment disorder) don’t respond to traditional parenting strategies or therapy.
Many kind-hearted foster parents just can’t do it anymore. They pass the kids with attachment disorders to other families. And the cycle continues. It’s just what these kids want—but exactly the opposite of what they need to get better.
Here’s what to do as a foster parent to a child with attachment disorder:
2) View educational videos about reactive attachment disorder on our website.
3) Participate in our Colorado parent training and mentoring opportunities. Call me, Forrest Lien, to sign up.
4) Take part in support groups led by our therapeutic parents. Contact Claire to get started.
5) Set up trainings for your agency or parent group through us. Call me, Forrest, to set up a time.
The Difference at IACD
People often ask what we do at the Institute that makes a difference for kids with attachment disorder. One big part of our success lies in our therapeutic foster parents. They truly understand attachment disorder. That’s because their own adoptive kids—or siblings—lived with attachment disorder too. They have extensive training and experience to reach the most damaged kids.
We want to share what we’ve learned. The Institute for Attachment and Child Development is on a mission to give support and resources for people just like you. Don’t wait—follow the 5 tips above to get support from our collaborative team.
I respect your job as a foster parent. It’s an extremely tough—yet very important—role in our society. Thank you for seeking the knowledge and skills you need to help the kids in your care. You really are making a difference. And you’re not alone.
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