By Forrest Lien, Attachment Specialist and IACD Director
I take calls from adoptive parents from all over the country. Many of them have questions about their children and school issues.
Here are typical concerns of parents with school:
- My child is distracted in school and doesn’t do well academically.
- My child’s teacher blames me for my child’s lack of performance and homework.
Why does my child have issues in school?
- School is often a social outlet for kids with attachment disorder to get away from their families. The child is overwhelmed with distractions.
- Since they’re able to manipulate teachers, AD kids may actually act out less at school. This leads teachers to believe that parents are the issue.
- Kids with attachment disorders make their teachers believe they can’t do the work—a case of learned helplessness. Yet, they manipulate their teachers and are able to gain labels such as learning disabled so can avoid schoolwork.
What can you do?
- Don’t work harder than your child on his or her academics. If you battle with your child over school, you end up with one more issue that shouldn’t belong to you.
- Give teachers resources to understand your child. Our website has resources that you can copy for them. Check out http://www.center4familydevelop.com/helpteachrad.htm
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