From the perspective of Dyan Roosma, Treatment mom
On the last day of school, our 9-year-old came home with a Father’s Day card he had made in class. It had a drawing of a star, a baseball and bat, and an acrostic of the word FATHER. It read:
Now, we are still not sure about “enomenis”. Our boy said it meant “awesomest” or “coolest” but those words didn’t really work out for him.
Dads have something moms don’t have
Dads are people kids look up to and respect. My husband is not a teacher for a living yet our son sees him as a teacher in his life. And I can tell you, for a fact, that all of our kids—birth, adopted, and foster—will tell you that “Dad Chris” is responsible and athletic. For some reason, he has a gift I just don’t have. When I can’t get anyone to listen to me, he just has to speak one word. They all quiet down and tune their ears to what he has to say.
A man who steps up to raise children who are not his own is a quiet kind of hero that speaks loudly to my heart.
Fathers, or father figures, play an integral role in our children’s lives. They teach our boys about being men. They teach our girls about how they should expect to be treated by men. They can help give moms a break when they are tired from the constant giving that is required of moms. They have a different kind of authority than moms. In the world of RAD parenting, that authority is only more necessary.
RAD can split marriages
Sometimes, RAD kids can split the mother and father apart. If this happens in your marriage, remember that your husband doesn’t see the same disturbing behaviors from your child that you do. Your child is intentionally hiding those behaviors from your husband (to learn more about this phenomena, please watch the video “Attachment Disorder in Children and Families” http://instituteforattachment.org/learn-about-attachment-disorder/videos/. When this happens, it is time to seek professional help without question. You need to be on the same page for the health of your child and your marriage.
So, this Father’s Day, celebrate the man in your child’s life! Let him know he is needed, important, and appreciated.
What do you admire about the fathers in your children’s lives? Please share below.