I receive desperate calls from adoptive parents, mostly moms, almost every day. They are depressed and worn out. I can hear the sighs of relief as we talk that someone finally understands what they’re going though. It’s sad that they’ve waited for so long for the empathic phone call.
Mothers, often the “nurturing enemies” to children with reactive attachment disorder, look frantically for help with their children with reactive attachment disorder. Most mental health professionals are not helpful, their spouses and extended family members don’t see the same behaviors, and they often feel alone. They have a hard time going out in public with their children due to their behaviors. In addition, it’s extremely difficult to find childcare for kids with reactive attachment disorder. Many mothers feel like prisoners in their own homes. Ironically, many moms who work relentlessly to help their adopted child overcome past trauma experience post-traumatic stress disorder of their own.
Here’s how it happens (keep scrolling below for help as well):
There is help for parents struggling with PTSD:
- Understand that you’re not alone. Stay connected to our blogs and sign-up for our newsletters.
- Call the Institute for the Attachment and Child Development at (303) 674-1910 to talk to an attachment specialist or a professional therapeutic treatment parent.
- Share our videos about reactive attachment disorder and blogs with your family and friends so they can begin to understand what you’re going through. Here are two helpful articles to share: How an adoptive parent becomes a nurturing enemy (the unfortunate effects of reactive attachment disorder) and Beyond overwhelmed, reactive attachment disorder, moms, and depression.
- Attend one of our workshops or arrange for us to travel to your area.
- Contact your health care professional for possible medication for depression.
- Take respite time from kids with reactive attachment disorder to rejuvenate.
- Stay tuned for our parent support groups if you live in Colorado (and eventually, online as well).
Check out our upcoming workshops for support and tips for parents and professionals living or working with kids with reactive attachment disorder at: instituteforattachment.org/events
When we learn together, we can work together to advocate for children and families struggling with reactive attachment disorder!