We’ve attended weekly family therapy sessions, read books and attended classes trying to educate ourselves for this moment. I know—we all know—we can’t go back to the way it was before. We have to take what we’ve learned and move forward.
We’re All Excited (and a little nervous too)
Tyler admits he’s anxious about coming home. Scared he’ll mess up. We’ve told him he will mess up-he’s a teenage boy! But now he has the ability to respond appropriately. And we know how to help him through those times.
Our other kids, Simone and Lanie, have mixed feelings. The girls don’t know if they trust him yet. I don’t blame them. Their memories of temper tantrums, screaming rages, and cursed obscenities still haunt them.
But We’re Ready
Tyler will start out in ‘line of site’ of John or me at all times. We installed alarms in our home, including his bedroom door. He will not be allowed to come and go as he pleases anywhere in our home. The treatment home structure that we will model includes respectfully asking permission before engaging in ANY activity.
As part of our relationship building efforts, he’ll spend the majority of his time with John or me. We’ll be preparing meals, doing yard work, housework, walking the dogs, running errands, etc. His therapist says, “he needs to be in your pocket at all times!”
This is going to be really hard. Really inconvenient, too! But, I know it’s important and essential as we continue to build our loving trusting relationships.
So, I’ll let you know how it’s going. I just can’t wait to give him a welcome home hug.