At this moment, I’m surrounded by males in my home. I have eight boys, one husband and three male dogs. That doesn’t include my sons that don’t live at home anymore! It’s all testosterone, all the time. As you can imagine, football is on every Sunday with great enthusiasm. I’m not quite sure what we will do with ourselves after the big game this month. It’ll be a boring few months as we wait for the beginning of baseball season.
To work with kids with reactive attachment disorder is pretty much the “Super Bowl of Parenthood”. I often feel like the quarterback and every play is a blitz. If you feel the same as a parent of a child with reactive attachment disorder, here are some tips to help you get through the rough spots.
5 Plays to Survive the “Superbowl of Parenthood” (parenting a child with RAD):
- You might get blindsided and sacked by an event you don’t see coming—no matter how hard you try to set up the best support team possible. Expect and prepare yourself for those times mentally. They’re normal for all parents, especially those who have kids with reactive attachment disorder.
- Remember it’s okay to pass the ball every once in a while. You can’t do it alone.
- Take good care of yourself in between the games (or in this case, tantrums).
- Remember that after the super bowl, comes the off-season—a time for rest and rejuvenation. Take breaks from your child so you can return to the game ready to play! The whole team suffers when their MVP is injured.
- The MVP player…yes, that’s you. You probably don’t feel like a star most days. Kids with reactive attachment disorder do their best to push away the people who love them—especially the mother figure. After a while, it gets to all of us. You’re only human. Remember that you’re incredible and talented.
The game can be tough and at times—discouraging and full of setbacks. But remember that victory in the life of your child is worth every moment.
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