As the school year is now in full swing, parents of children with reactive attachment disorder often start getting calls home from school. Some parents wonder if home schooling is a better fit for their children. While I believe education can come in many forms, I don’t believe home schooling is usually a good fit for families of children with reactive attachment disorder.
Here’s why kids with RAD and home school don’t work well together:
- The parent/teacher (usually the mother) never gets a break. As I’ve written before, the mother figure is often the “nurturing enemy”. This dynamic doesn’t go away when a mother steps into the role of teacher. Therefore, moms only feel more burned out and unable to take care of anyone, including themselves.
- The parent and child get enmeshed in the emotional battle of who is in charge. When this happens, the child isn’t learning anyhow.
Parents can get overly focused on the value of education over the emotional well-being of their families. However, parents need a break from the battle. When they put their families and mental health first, the rest falls into place. Once kids get healing for reactive attachment disorder, they often have motivation to succeed and do much better in school.