This post is one of our Family Friday series when we give you a peek into our family treatment homes. Each Friday, we’ll show you a picture, along with a description from one of our treatment parents. Learn more about our unique treatment model for children with reactive attachment disorder and meet our treatment families.
“Mike*, a young man in our home at the moment, wants to participate in his final choir performance at school. This photo is of him in practice. Of course, this is great and we encourage him wholeheartedly. Yet, his poor choices lately – disrespect and disruptive behaviors in school – have hindered the possibilities for him to perform in the last show.
We believe in natural consequences here at the Institute for Attachment and Child Development and allow the children to remain responsible for their choices – whether that means success or failure. Of course, we give them plenty of encouragement as they choose wisely. It’s hard to watch when they get in the way of their own successes. No matter how difficult, however, it’s especially important that we maintain this philosophy.
Children with reactive attachment disorder usually have a particular knack for avoiding personal responsibility and gaining control of their environments. Yet, we need to go with the resistance rather than join it. By doing so, we are not getting in the way of their long-term successes. That is, to allow them to grow and learn from their mistakes and to ultimately gain responsibility and pride in themselves.
We’re holding our breath in anticipation as Mike’s final performance time gets closer. Yet…we do think Mike will make it all the way to the end. He’s on the right track again so far!”
-Jan Barber, therapeutic treatment mom at the Institute for Attachment and Child Development