This post is one of our Family Friday series when we give you a peek into our family treatment homes. Each Friday, we’ll show you a picture, along with a description from one of our treatment parents. Learn more about our unique treatment model for children with reactive attachment disorder and meet our treatment families.
“Number 87*. That’s his number, his membership, his identifier, his place of belonging on his school’s football team. Few know where he comes from, how many homes he has been through, how many times he has lost control, or how many challenges he has overcome despite his situation. No, they know him as Number 87. Here’s a picture of his very first football game on the team.
When he came into my home, we built a foundation of trust in the ruins of disappoinment. His heart was hardened to the world that had dealt him such poor hands. We worked with him to learn that adults could be trusted. The world could be good. He learned that an already clumsy kid, who had grown so fast, could become part of something he would always remember. Thus, his moniker, Number 87. When he plays the game or stands on the sidelines, he is there because of trust built between an adult and a child.
For Number 87 though, none of this matters in the moment of a game. All of the bad disappears for him whether on the sidelines, on the line of scrimmage, or when the quarterback snaps the ball. He is no longer a failed adoption, an emotional wreck, or a tough case. He is Number 87 and hard hitting a Cougar.”
-Jared Martin, therapeutic treatment dad at the Institute for Attachment and Child Development
*Our client’s number is changed to protect his identity.